Ladies, today I went to the garage and I opened my husbands trunk (car) and what I found surprised me and hurt me. Neatly, placed in his golf shoes were four unopened condoms. We don%26#039;t use condoms. What would you think if you found what I found? Stupid question???? Is he cheating? I asked him about the condoms and before he could answer I told him I wanted a divorce. When he heard me ask for a divorce he said he didn%26#039;t need to answer any questions since I was wanting a divorce. Am I crazy? Am I crazy to believe that he is cheating? The condoms were so neatly stashed in his shoes. I am feeling a little guilty for not listening to his answer and demanding divorce.
Ladies what would you think if you found condoms in your husbands trunk?
No you are not. And if he can%26#039;t understand why you are upset and give you an explanation, he probably doesn%26#039;t give a damn about you. He is coming off with a lot of attitude for a someone who should be apologizing and feeling guilty. God, men are something else.
Reply:at least wait for his lame @ss excuse!!!!
Reply:I think you should have heard him out before asking for a divorce but hind sight is always 20/20. I can%26#039;t think of a reasonable explanation for condoms in his golf shoes though. I would be curious as to how he would explain them. I don%26#039;t think you are crazy or stupid. Some people believe their spouses are cheating with a lot less evidence than this so don%26#039;t beet yourself up too much.
I think you should try and get him to talk to you regardless so that you can know one way or the other and if there is any chance of staying together (if you want to stay together that is).
Good Luck.
Reply:girl if he won%26#039;t give you an explaination then hes cheating, just get out before it gets nasty- and plus if he was upset then hes definantly cheating
Reply:There is no possible answer that could explain that away!
And since he didn%26#039;t fight you, try to explain, then he is ready for the divorce too.
If he thought you were worth it, he would have dropped to his knees and begged to explain. He didn%26#039;t.
Maybe he wanted to get caught, so you could be the one to end the relationship.
Reply:If you want a divorce so quickly and hastily after that, I think it says a lot about YOUR committment to the relationship. Have you been unhappy and looking for a reason to get out of your marriage?
I%26#039;m sorry, I may be way off base with that, but you had a very a quick decision that is questionable. Maybe you were just extremely angry and emotional, but either way, I don%26#039;t think your reaction was a good one.
I agree it doesn%26#039;t look good, I can%26#039;t think of a viable reason why a married man would have condoms in his shoes. But you never know, talk to him about it, don%26#039;t shout and accuse, ask for the logical explanation. Hopefully, there is one. It seems you both reacted in an angry and hasty manner, I have a feeling your marital troubles preceded this incident. Both you and your husband seem very angry and unable to communicate properly with each other.
How long have you guys been married?
Have you guys ever used condoms?
Are they possibly left over from another time or another woman?
EDIT: Hi, I just read your previous questions and I see that I was correct, you and your husband have severe marital issues that preceded this event. You say he is verbally abusive and tells you no one would ever want you. A man like this will almost surely cheat on you, so I am sorry to say it looks like you are right. I have a feeling you want out of this marriage and honestly, I don%26#039;t think it would be a bad idea. I almost never encourage divorce, but if he is unwilling to seek help or counseling for his behavior, it would be best if you separate from him. Especially if he has ever physically hurt you. You are not worthless and you do not deserve to put up with this kind of abuse. Please talk to him about getting both individual and couples counseling, you two are in a very bad situation and you are being lied to and taken advantage of. You deserve better than this, I pray he will come to his senses, but if not, please don%26#039;t waste your life on this loser.
Reply:well if u told him u want a divorce and he didnt even act like no no and he said if we gettin a divorce i dont need 2 explain myself 2 u then he dont llove u, im sorry 2 say but it seems that way and then if he wasnt cheating he could of juss told u he wasnt buh cuz he said he dont need 2 explain meelf 2 u hes got no answer ready, he probly didnt expect u 2 find dem. see how many condoms u get in a pack, normaly u get 3 or 6 and if theres 4 theres a possibility that he could of used 2 of dem
Reply:You%26#039;re not overreacting. What a creep. I%26#039;m sorry. Since he didn%26#039;t even argue with you, i%26#039;d say he%26#039;s guilty.
Reply:listen to him maybe he wanted to cheat but he did not have the heart to do it so he just stucked the condoms in his shoe until he could dispose of them...ask him and let him know that although you accused him you would like to know the truth.
Reply:So you should. You should at least have heard him out before jumping to something as big as divorce. No matter what happens with the marriage, you will wonder about it the rest of your life. Divorce won%26#039;t give you closure.
When you calm down, try talking to your husband again and find out what really happened. Its likely you are right, but wouldn%26#039;t you kick yourself if you got divorced and you were wrong?
Reply:What would I think? I think that he needs to get a better job. Not only to afford a dang hotel room, but because he%26#039;s going to need it for alimony and child support.
He%26#039;s cheating honey, don%26#039;t let him tell you otherwise. If you buy those excuses, you%26#039;ll be the one kicking yourself for being so foolish. You deserve better and even you know it. This isn%26#039;t what you signed up for.
Reply:His lack of response would indicate that he doesn%26#039;t care one way or another if you stay or leave. The condoms mean he%26#039;s cheating. There is no other explanation, he probably couldn%26#039;t think of one either. Sorry
Reply:well considering your married and dont use condoms you would have EVERY right to think he is cheating. why else would he need a box of condoms!! you better handle this soon before it goes on any further. there is NO explaination for this... just excuses and lies.
Reply:You know in your heart what the problem is. Trust your gut, and think about this completely before making a life changing decision.
I hope everything works out for you.
Reply:yes he is cheating. am a male and if i was married i certainly wouldn%26#039;t buy condoms. if i did i would not hide them in my shoes. your not crazy ether.
Reply:One thing and only-CHEATER!! Why eles would they be in the trunk other than he is cheating on you..Im sorry luv..that blows!!
Reply:I would investigate and find out somehow if he was on the golf course the last time he told you he was going there. I would also check my cell phone for strange numbers and the time calls were made. Then I would look at all my credit card statements under resturants and amount of bill. This could give you a clue if the bill was rather pricey for only one person. Check ATM withdrawals time and dates. Think back to any overtime and check his check stubs if he isn%26#039;t salary....check every possible paper trail you can think of because you may find evidence there. The fact that you found condoms would give anyone reason to believe that your husband is up to no good. If it were me there would be no peace in my house untill I got the truth and he better not lie to me because there are std%26#039;s out there that not even a condom can protect you from!! I would say HELL NO and get mad as hell and be a crazy woman. He is buying himself time to think up a good story for you finding the condoms in his golf shoes. To avoid you after making the comment about divorce would be reason enough for him to to have told you right then and there what the hell was going on! I guess when he does speak out to you about it he will say someone played a dirty joke on him at the golf course and put them there.....don%26#039;t buy the story because if someone done that your husband would be mad enough to jump anyones behind that could cause him to have maritial problems over it! As long as he remains silent he has time to get with one of the guys and have a good story to back him up...so make him talk now and tear the house down like a bull in a china shop when you do!! Take care and be strong I know this is making you sick.
Reply:I would think he was cheating and trying to hide it.
Reply:I am a guy. Throw him in the trunk with his condoms.
Reply:Yes, you should have let him explain and the decide if you bought the story or not. I would say if he has condoms he must be thinking about cheating if he has not all ready!
Reply:If I had found condoms in my husband%26#039;s golf shoes....I would be VERY SUSPICIOUS!...You and your husband had no reason to be using condoms. Him refusing to explain the condoms because you already said you wanted a divorce tells me is very guilty of something. Why do you feel guilty for not listening to his explanation? Let me guess...he was holding them for a friend right? or....lets see...he was going to use them on himself while he masturbates...YEAH RIGHT!
Reply:if he didn%26#039;t even try to explain, he is guilty....
Reply:Why are you girls so quick to jump to the conclusion that the husband is cheating here?
Just because he has condoms in his shoes!
Haven%26#039;t you heard that condoms are the best things out for blisters caused by tight shoes? Playing golf requires a lot of walking - thus blisters often appear.
Nearly all golfers carry condoms %26amp; pull them over the part of the toe or foot where blisters appear. Good remedy, eh?
Trust me - would I lie to you?
Reply:Well you are a smart woman to tell him that you want a divoice because if you two dont use condoms then why does he have them?? His answers most likly would have a been a lie anyone and you arent crazy you are being smart about it because there is no reason why they should have been hiding in his shoes if he wasnt doing something wrong...good luck
Reply:First of all, divorce is not the answer but marriage counseling is. If he is cheating, you will come to know the problems surrounding the reasons and get help to recover from this setback in your relationship. But if you think divorce is going to solve your marriage problems, your wrong, it adds only to more pain that is like a snowball rolling down a hill. Stop it now and seek godly advice from your Pastor or from a Church counseling center..
Reply:I%26#039;d assume he was cheating, why else would he have the condoms? You are not crazy! My best advice is to go with your gut. What%26#039;s it say?
Reply:Sorry to say this but hes cheating on you!! If u guys dont use condoms together then hes obviesl using them on someone else!!
Reply:hmmmmmmmmmmm wheres the rest of them ...there are more than 4 to a box?
Reply:If he had condoms and you guys don%26#039;t use them together, unless he%26#039;s screwing a horse or something...he%26#039;s cheating on you.
Reply:I don%26#039;t blame you in the least for being suspicious . Honestly, what other conclusions are you expected to come to when you discover something like that??? Even if you didn%26#039;t wait for him to answer, he should have enough decency to give you an explanation. I mean, you%26#039;re his wife for god%26#039;s sake, that%26#039;s more than enough reason for one! In the heat of the moment you said you wanted a divorce, but that doesnt give him the right not to tell you exactly why there are condoms hidden in his car.
By saying he doesnt need to answer to your accusations, he%26#039;s trying to elude the confrontation, which is pretty cowardly and CHEAP of him.
Reply:leave him
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