Ok do I tell him how hurt I am, or do I let it go?

25th anniversary, great card from my husband in the morning. Then....nothing. It fell on a tuesday, so we both had to work that day, and we have an ongoing function on tuesdays with other friends. The other friend has just lost his wife, and it was his b-day so neither one of us thought we could abandon him that day. We both agreed to celebrate the following weekend. Well we never did. I bought my husband new golf shoes, a driver and 6 golf lessons which I was thrilled to give him. His response was he felt bad he didn%26#039;t get me anything, he thought about having flowers sent to work, but knew that I was there alone that day and it wouldn%26#039;t have meant anything if no one was there to see me get them? Now I am totally confused. He knows that I really thought this was a huge milestone, I thought he did to. I mean we do things together all the time, and he tells me all the time were soulmates, but shouldn%26#039;t something special have happened. (continued)

Ok do I tell him how hurt I am, or do I let it go?
Tell it serectively and cleverly . You have reason to tell him that you hurt .
Reply:just tell him...
Reply:Us men aren%26#039;t as sentimental as you women are. The fact that he remembered a card on that day Is Just Amazing.....


There have been many times I forgot my anniversary. But, Got her a card the following weekend.


Its just the way we are......
Reply:I really can relate to this. I have a dutch husband and sometimes I think they have no emotions. It has taken me several years to even get him to give me a card. You see, men can just be idiots, even though they love us to death. Sounds like he loves you alot...but just is not good at this sort of thing. I DO tell my husband when he hurts me in this way and little by little he has gotten better...a work in progress every year.


I think you should tell him it hurt you and that you are dissappointed without being cruel about it (don%26#039;t dare hurt his ego), then suggest a dinner out to celebrate on a certain date. Maybe he will get the hint and plan it himself.
Reply:Maybe just maybe your hubby has plans but is not telling because he wants it to be a surprise. Maybe part of his plan is to have you think he%26#039;s not gonna do anything and when u least expect it SURPRISE!!!=-)





I mean 25 yrs is a milestone and I%26#039;m sure after things are clear for him to spring it on u he will





But if after awhile nothing happens don%26#039;t let it stop U from going out by yourself and celebrate Ur 25th alone go out and make a night or day of it.





Go shopping by yourself a nice outfit, get your nails done, facial, go to the hair salon, go to lunch and enjoy the rest of the day don%26#039;t let anything or anyone spoil your day no matter what happens just let it roll off u until after you%26#039;ve had a day of fun.





If Ur hubby happens to see u getting dressed and ask where Ur going just say Ur meeting some of Ur gal pals or better yet don%26#039;t let him see U getting ready to go out, let him see u come in fropm having a day of fun by yourself when he ask u wher ya been thats when u say with a smile ( remember don%26#039;t let anyone get u upset) I was out celebrating, when he says celebrating what say my 25th anniversary an I had a wonderful time sweetie. He ask why did u do it without him then just say I have been asking u for the longest if we could do something but u never seem to have the time so I thought I%26#039;d just go do it myself 25th anniversary only happens once so I figure I better enjoy it. I hope this will make him say %26quot; Honey I%26#039;m sorry and I want to take u out so we can celebrate together%26quot; and the two of U go out and have the best time ever =-)
Reply:Be glad he remembered, Don%26#039;t be so focused on Material things as a record of how much he loves you.
Reply:25th anniversary and no hoopla? You MUST confront him on this one.
Reply:You already asked this today. Didn%26#039;t you like the answers?
Reply:yes tell him your feelings....Never to late to celebrate!
Reply:tell him how you feel. men cant read minds, especially when it comes to women.
Reply:You have to let him know that this bothered you. 25 years is a big deal. Its typical of a man to not know that how he %26quot;celebrated%26quot; your anniversary would be upsetting to you.



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